you sit there in your chair, her leg close to yours. she`s beautiful, she`s perfect and she`s inches from your touch.
any yet she may as well be a thousand miles away for all that you can do.
so you sit and relax and focus on imagining yourself slowly desceding down in an elevator deep into the ground.
each floor down you descend allows you a greater sense of relaxation and awareness.
as you find yourself relaxing turn slightly and look at her now. see her breathing and the way her eyes move and blink and the way she reaches for her drink and swallows the fluid......
and you gently and subtly copy a few of her movements.
she shows some minor twitch of her foot for a second or two and you mirror the movement after a comfortable four beat delay.
she unfolds her legs and stretches in her seat.
again you copy with the same languid comfort.
she turns to look at you now and you smile and shift your attention to her and you will know if it is ok to say anything to her.
and if not then you are free to go or to continue your covert mirroring.
she may even instigate conversation.
the process of mirroring has the effect of contacting a deep level of her awareness that once touched can be used to have an intimate dialog with her without speaking.
some women are aware of this either intuitively or otherwise and delight in the game.
some are oblivious but still respond.
others will reject your approach as if you said hello.
again, it`s not important how she responds. what is important is that you practice and learn to observe the reaction.
recently i had this exact experience with a woman and i sat almost knee to knee with her for half an hour while she went through all manner of contortions to get my overt attention.
i sat there slightly mirroring her and reading a newspaper.
she eventually got so pissed off that i wouldn`t say anything to her that she sighed heavily and walked out.
i saw her again in the same coffee shop while i was with another woman a week later.
she lasted about two minutes before she left.
so what was going on here?
i made an investment in a potential future conversation with the first woman.
why didn`t i talk to the first woman the first time?
i needed to have the covert conversation with her and leave it at that. her reaction to seeing me with another woman confirmed my initial feeling.
About Me
- Dr.Alistair
- My name is Alistair Kinnear. I am a Certified Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner and Life Coach, and I am working on my Doctorate in Divinity. I work in helping people to change behaviour and I like to think that I am waking up their spirit in the process.
6 comments:
dr. alistair,
I will have to deal with you fully tomorrow. I am thoroughly tired, and couldn't imagine having you as a therapist; due to your very suggestive more, or less propaganda. Exactly how many of your clients have fired you?
Three things I noticed about you Sir, the great "dr" that you are
a.)
You "say" that you think America is great
b.)
You crap on comments by the very people that created The United States of America; which would be the founding father's. Who created famous quotes such as: "Better To Die On Your Feet, Than To Live On Your Knees!!"
From what you said, The famous quote would read: "It is better to cower on your knees in fear in a totalitarian state lucky to have the privilege to breath with hot water, and lights; than be brave, and stand up for what is right even if that were to incur death. Being a live slave is better, than dying for standing up for what is correct!"
c.)
I also read from UNLOADED your armchair quarterback metaphor. I gotta tell ya' it wasn't very good. You changed again an American founding father's statement which was: "The Pen Is Mightier Than The Sword"!!
I know for sure Sir you have possibly have been in a situation where you could of thrown the "Football", but more than likely cowered on your knees. Read down I believe three to four of my posts. You'll see a picture of a Guatemalan being shot, and murdered. The photo is shaking because my sister was stupid enough to take it. It resulted in........read the blog coward.
In essence you restated, yet again, a famous American Founding Father comment into something along the modern lines of:"unless your a mercenary, or have your "nut job" finger on the red ICBM button; you really don't have any business talking"!!!!!!!!!!!!
I will say, I am well traveled. I have been to more "shit holes" than I can remember. From reading your comment which I am not even close to being done with you have been in the very safe countries of England as a child, and now currently Canada. Have you been to any other countries that can even come close to your carry a "bigger stick" comment on UNLOADED? I think from being the mystic that I am, for arguements sake you'll list off a few. Well I'll tell ya' what I have pictures to back up my words Sir.........So once again, until tomorrow when I am refreshed to fully psychoanalyse you. To very clearly point out your good suggestive ramblings; that go in, and out of truths, and none truths
have a great night, and remember,
Peace and Freedom
my clients don`t choose to engage in political debate with me. or religion or sports.
my expertise is in the dynamics of human behaviour, and as such my clients find resolution from thier issues in discussions with me about parts of thier psyche that aren`t getting along.
why do you feel the need to suggest that i should be censored when you hold out a belief in universal free speech?
bit hypocritical (don`t you think?)
oh, and by the way, the founding fathers are dead. they don`t care what a person might say....and didn`t when they were alive.
i was mexico and belize some years ago and the feeling of fear was palpable from the moment we touched down. soldiers with machine guns everwhere and reports of rebels in the hills. a mixture of spanish imperialism and tribal divisiveness.
we came to swim with dolphins and see a pyramid or two....oh yeah, and visit my brother in belize (s.a.s. by the way.) and found the region to be a dichotomy of coke-filled tourists and hostile natives. a dangerous mix after dark. the worst attack i bore was from a rooster while bicycling through a village near tulum. (it was his road though.....)
i knew better than to try to engage with the locals on thier turf after dark.
the most dangerous place i`ve ever been to was new orleans in 1990. at the time the favorite sport of the addicted was to break windows of cars at stop lights to steal purses etc....
there were three unfortunates killed outside our hotel one night in a gun-battle while we drank piss american beer around the pool, and we witnessed a miami vice style car chase downtown one afternoon while shopping on poidras street.
as a child i fought in gangs in the village i lived in just outside london, because to be caught without your friends meant you were going to get a kicking.
it was a simple life and bullies and cowards were sorted quickly.
TO BOOST THE AMOUNT OF COMMENTS YOU'RE GETTING, KIND REGARDS!!!
From the blog UNLOADED;dr.alistair
said:
nobody ranges in a combat zone with the safety on....to teach that would get a boy dead in any game, real or otherwise....
fraud?
where`s this invective coming from?
"dr. alistair",
It is apparent with my links given to you, and the challenged presented that you are still a fascist fraud.
Go to Spokane, Washington the Mom, and Pop stores are thriving! Wal-Mart, and every other chain is there as well. The difference is that being in a farming community the Mom and Pop stores can sell at half the price of the chains..Go there and see.
Also, I will because of the nature of the sensitivity of the nature of this particular post correct you again.
A BB traveling at 400fps is fast enough to penetrate many things including skulls. They do bounce off your Kettle pots, and go some where? Don't they? You did say copper, Right? A ricochet is a very, very dangerous thing.
On the note of combat zones: When soldiers have their "BOOTS ON THE GROUND; THEY ARE TOLD TO COCK AND LOCK" This means in a combat zone rack a round in the chamber, and have your safety on!! It is one of the most important of all lessons taught in the military; for the simple fact that you have a lot of people that are in harms way.......ALWAYS COCKED AND LOCKED!!! Military SIR.
Peace and Freedom
Here is everything you said at the site UNLOADED. 400fps, dents in my kettle sound like the metal bb rather than harmless plastic ones. Maybe, No absolutely your a paid subversive! Cocked and Locked is what ALL military teach. As far as conventional handling of weapons, never chambered, and safety on........You being a mystic; why would you encourage your children to destroy?
dr.alistair said...
sasbb gun wars....i have the scars to prove it.
i recently bought airsoft guns for my children, boys 9 and 12. these are serious weapons with a 400 fps muzzle velocity so the lads are told to carry the guns muzzle down with thier fingers outside of the trigger ring until they bring the weapon to bear toward the target. they have been drilled never to aim the weapon at a target unless they have decided to fire, and not to point the weapon at people or animals, even in jest.
so thy`ve shot the apartment to shit.
they`ve nailed lightbulbs, my antique brass kettle, some of my pine furniture and all of the cardboard in the place including books and magazines.
but no-one has lost an eye.
and the sound of them letting loose on unsuspecting carboard boxes is magnificent.
dr.alistair said...
nobody ranges in a combat zone with the safety on....to teach that would get a boy dead in any game, real or otherwise....
fraud?
where`s this invective coming from?
9:21 AM, July 10, 2008
dr.alistair said...
it`s so true about the gun thing......and so deeply satifying.
the only problem is,i have no idea how to get the little dents out of my kettle.
6:40 PM, July 10, 2008
paid subversive?
now i know you are projecting.
our society is controlled via consumerism here.....not political pressure.
people here are happy to be able to dose themselves with a series of minor purchases each day no matter what their income level and as long as they can do that then the peace is kept.
when people can`t do that for whatever reason they start to try to scratch at things that can`t be scratched without personal damage....and pretty soon they are tearing eachother limb-from-limb.
x-dell will help you with that distinction.
and if you think you can ride on a tide of unhappy people convinced you are going to lead them to a promised land then you haven`t really thought things through, and you have good reason to be paranoid about posting your picture on a blog with dissident views.
http://www.elcanche.com/weblog/archives/000500.html
as much as the rest of the world apparently dilikes the "american" lifestlye, they understand that for most here we don`t life in a constant fear for our personal safety from some unseen agency and we are free to visit wal-mart and the coffee shop and as long as we keep the peace the police drive by.
that`s why staggering amounts of people from oppressed regimes are making thier way here on a daily basis.....despite what the fidel castros of the world say.
if che guevara had spent his rubles on hookers and tequila he might have lived as long as his buddy fidel, but he believed his bullshit long enough to get lead poisoning.
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